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Give Yourself More Grace

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Are you on a healing journey? If so, are you finding it a little difficult to "get through" certain feelings when they come up? Do you find that just when you think you're ok, another wave of sadness, anger, or loneliness crashes through your nervous system, causing you to feel like you're spiraling out of control?

I understand those feelings and while they are intense, I want you to know that you are loved and you are not alone. If you are reading this right now because you need to feel supported and grounded in some way, then that's just what this post is intended for.

Your healing journey is important, and it is a journey that only YOU can make. However, a little "water", a little "sustenance" (figuratively) from someone who's been there, is also very healing.

I recently saw a quote posted on Instagram by Vex King that gave me a fresh perspective on my ability to handle internally challenging feelings and situations. When it comes to doing the deep inner work of healing, things can get overwhelming. To be honest...It sucks!!!

Healing isn't easy. I've said it before, "healing is messy." It's uncomfortable, complicated, and heavy. It feels like it gets worse before it gets better.

When you're healing, sometimes you feel alone in your ever cascading waterfall of thoughts. Sometimes, you don't quite understand how to express those thoughts (or feelings), and when you try to release the "pressure" it spills out in ways you don't want it to.

I've learned the hard way that healing is different for everyone. You may not understand how to heal, but the need to heal manifests in different ways for each individual.

For some, it comes through waves and rises up as anger. For others, it's a lot of tears and the need for external comfort. Whatever your journey has looked like until now, I want to encourage you to give yourself grace.

I'm giving myself grace even as I type this because there are things I am working on at this very moment. I don't always get this healing thing right, and if I allow myself to sink into the feelings of "not always getting it right", I will end up prolonging that specific part of my healing journey even longer.

So, I say to myself, "Chin up! You're doing your best with what you have, and what you know, and that is ALL you can do." That's why I wanted to share this post with you today. To encourage you to give yourself grace in whatever capacity that looks like for you.

Life is COMPLICATED!!! Sure, it's marvelous when it's smooth, and everything's coming up roses! It's wonderful and possible. However, on the flip side, when everything seems to be falling apart, and you have no idea what you're doing, or where your footing is...give yourself grace.

Be nice to yourself. Show compassion to the parts of you that are raw and open.

The fact that you are even on this journey is a wonderful thing! So many reach the end of their lives without the courage to have looked deep within themselves to heal what could have been healed.

I hope you find peace, restoration, healing, and joy in the coming days. May you discover the parts of you that were lost under that pile of pain you've tried to hide. May you heal and recover from the many hurts from your past. I wish you all the best on your healing journey.

Here's the quote by Vex King...

(I like to replace credit with the word grace.)

"Give yourself more credit.

You're trying to grow while trying to heal.

You're trying to forgive while trying to grieve.

You're trying to search while trying to let go.

And you're trying to love others while remembering how to love yourself. You're doing the best you can."

- Vex King

All my love,


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